Dear Future Husband,
It's been a while since I last wrote you a letter and figured that I would take the time to do so. I've been told that I may be a little bit obsessed with finding a future spouse so I had to take some time off to do some thinking about this. I've come to this conclusion: that while that is true that I would love to find you, sooner rather than later preferably, I don't think that it is a bad thing to dream and to keep those hopes and dreams alive. I do think that I do need to give this more over to God because I have realized that I was obsessed for a while and drove my friends crazy with constantly talking about it, but thankfully God has helped me move beyond that stage to where I am now, simply content waiting for you. I also came to another conclusion while thinking about this: I'm not sure if I am ready to be a wife yet. It scares the crap out of me to think of marrying a person and sticking with that person...forever! That word...*gulp*. To me, marriage is not something that I take lightly because when I say 'I do' I am in it for the long haul and divorce is not an option (unless something like physical, emotional, or mental abuse is involved or something else serious like that). However, I'm not sure if anyone can truly be prepared to be a wife or spouse because even if I read all the books on marriage ever written (believe me I have not even attempted), it still would not prepare me for being married to you specifically with all the things that make you completely you and pairing that with all the things that make me completely me. Those books could never prepare me for two imperfect individuals living together and going through life together. So until our paths cross, I'm going to keep on praying that God prepares both me and you for a life of marriage...together. I know I've got a lot of growing to do before then and I'm starting to realize how much.
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
Wednesday, June 3, 2015
Saturday, February 14, 2015
Letter #8: Valentine's Day
Dear Future Husband,
I could write you a disparaging note on how it sucks to be single on Valentine's Day, but this won't be that kind of letter. This Valentine's Day has been different for me in the best possible way. I feel loved by my friends and family and, for me, as silly, stupid, cheesy, fill-in-the-blank as this sounds, it really is enough and all I need right now! My friends have stepped up and shown me how much I am loved and cared for and because of that I haven't hated this day like I have in years past. Rather than focusing on what I don't have, God has shown me what I do have. That in itself is a miracle. I can't say that I haven't ranted and raved to my friends about the loneliness or wishes for you to appear in my life because they can all attest that I've done this. But for perhaps the first time in my life I haven't drowned myself in pity parties and chocolate. I haven't felt alone this Valentine's Day because I have felt and received so much encouragement from my friends. This is not only a testament to God's love and provision for me during a holiday I would ordinarily pretend didn't exist, but it is also a tremendous testament to the kinds of friends that I do have! I am beyond blessed on this Valentine's Day! And while I look forward to the day when we get to share our first Valentine's Day together, I am perfectly happy at this moment just drinking in all the little blessings in the form of friends that God has given to me! I pray that however you are spending your Valentine's Day today that you are feeling so incredibly loved and blessed and know that I am thinking and praying for you!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
I could write you a disparaging note on how it sucks to be single on Valentine's Day, but this won't be that kind of letter. This Valentine's Day has been different for me in the best possible way. I feel loved by my friends and family and, for me, as silly, stupid, cheesy, fill-in-the-blank as this sounds, it really is enough and all I need right now! My friends have stepped up and shown me how much I am loved and cared for and because of that I haven't hated this day like I have in years past. Rather than focusing on what I don't have, God has shown me what I do have. That in itself is a miracle. I can't say that I haven't ranted and raved to my friends about the loneliness or wishes for you to appear in my life because they can all attest that I've done this. But for perhaps the first time in my life I haven't drowned myself in pity parties and chocolate. I haven't felt alone this Valentine's Day because I have felt and received so much encouragement from my friends. This is not only a testament to God's love and provision for me during a holiday I would ordinarily pretend didn't exist, but it is also a tremendous testament to the kinds of friends that I do have! I am beyond blessed on this Valentine's Day! And while I look forward to the day when we get to share our first Valentine's Day together, I am perfectly happy at this moment just drinking in all the little blessings in the form of friends that God has given to me! I pray that however you are spending your Valentine's Day today that you are feeling so incredibly loved and blessed and know that I am thinking and praying for you!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
Monday, February 2, 2015
Letter #7: Ordinary Moments
Dear Future Husband,
I've been recently on a Brene Brown kick, which will make sense when I quote something from her. "We miss what is truly important because we are on the quest for what is extraordinary, not understanding that in the ordinary moments of our lives is where we find the most joy." Today I was just pondering this quote from her and I can't help but get excited to share in the ordinary moments with you someday. I was walking around the Mall of America this afternoon and I couldn't help but wish you were there to hold my hand and for us to share what my mother calls a "frothy drink" aka a frappacino from the myriad of coffee places scattered throughout the mall. We wouldn't necessarily need to do anything "extraordinary" per say but simply just being together, walking into our favorite stores, being silly, and enjoying overpriced drinks with too much caffeine and calories (but who cares about that anyways?). Yes, I can't wait for the romantic times too when we go out on our first date and share our first kiss and all that jazz, but I'm really looking forward to the ordinary moments when I just am so blessed to have you by my side for better and for worse. I think when I was younger I focused more on the romantic side of things, but as I've grown up I have become so much more aware of how important it is to have someone who knows everything about you and still sticks around for the adventures that life throws at you and is absolutely crazy in love with you. Right now, I don't need flowers and chocolate (although I love those things); right now I just need a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and arms to wrap me in a hug. Basically, in a nutshell, I'm looking for stability. And as Brene Brown talks about mainly vulnerability, I know I've got to practice this and that will take time. I'm learning so much right now about myself and wish you would appear soon so that I can share with you about everything and we can grow together, but during this waiting period of my life where I currently find myself, I am finding that I am beginning to understand myself in ways that I know will make a huge difference in the way that I relate to others and more importantly to you. So, Future Husband, I hope that today you are having many ordinary moments that are truly extraordinary!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
I've been recently on a Brene Brown kick, which will make sense when I quote something from her. "We miss what is truly important because we are on the quest for what is extraordinary, not understanding that in the ordinary moments of our lives is where we find the most joy." Today I was just pondering this quote from her and I can't help but get excited to share in the ordinary moments with you someday. I was walking around the Mall of America this afternoon and I couldn't help but wish you were there to hold my hand and for us to share what my mother calls a "frothy drink" aka a frappacino from the myriad of coffee places scattered throughout the mall. We wouldn't necessarily need to do anything "extraordinary" per say but simply just being together, walking into our favorite stores, being silly, and enjoying overpriced drinks with too much caffeine and calories (but who cares about that anyways?). Yes, I can't wait for the romantic times too when we go out on our first date and share our first kiss and all that jazz, but I'm really looking forward to the ordinary moments when I just am so blessed to have you by my side for better and for worse. I think when I was younger I focused more on the romantic side of things, but as I've grown up I have become so much more aware of how important it is to have someone who knows everything about you and still sticks around for the adventures that life throws at you and is absolutely crazy in love with you. Right now, I don't need flowers and chocolate (although I love those things); right now I just need a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and arms to wrap me in a hug. Basically, in a nutshell, I'm looking for stability. And as Brene Brown talks about mainly vulnerability, I know I've got to practice this and that will take time. I'm learning so much right now about myself and wish you would appear soon so that I can share with you about everything and we can grow together, but during this waiting period of my life where I currently find myself, I am finding that I am beginning to understand myself in ways that I know will make a huge difference in the way that I relate to others and more importantly to you. So, Future Husband, I hope that today you are having many ordinary moments that are truly extraordinary!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
Wednesday, January 28, 2015
Letter #6: The Longest Time
Dear Future Husband,
A fun fact about me is that while my mom was giving birth to me, the radio was on and "The Longest Time" by Billy Joel was playing. It's such a nostalgic song, even if I didn't happen to come into the world with that music playing, and at the same time it is such a hopeful song for the future. And I love the lyrics, especially the part when she inspires him to write music and do what he loves. Hopefully someday when I meet you I will be that same inspiration to you that I will be able to give life to your dreams and not just pursue my own. I want to inspire you to dream big and whatever it is that is your passion I want to push you towards it. I guess I've matured since my high school years (and everyone rejoiced haha!) because back then and even up until recently I've looked at people's marriages and thought that submission to your husband was not a fun thing because it made you give up your own dreams to follow your husband's. However, I have come to the conclusion that once you find that someone you want to spend forever with then it is so much more fun to see them light up with joy when they are doing something that they love. And in a marriage both individuals will push each other and inspire one another to pursue their dreams just so that they can see the other one light up with a radiance that comes from within. And that is so much more beautiful when the heart is alive than any exterior beauty that fades with time! So my prayer for you today is that you are finding something that makes you really light up from the inside out and are pursuing that, not just the temporary pleasures that are like a candle that can be quickly extinguished! I cannot wait to join you on your journey!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
A fun fact about me is that while my mom was giving birth to me, the radio was on and "The Longest Time" by Billy Joel was playing. It's such a nostalgic song, even if I didn't happen to come into the world with that music playing, and at the same time it is such a hopeful song for the future. And I love the lyrics, especially the part when she inspires him to write music and do what he loves. Hopefully someday when I meet you I will be that same inspiration to you that I will be able to give life to your dreams and not just pursue my own. I want to inspire you to dream big and whatever it is that is your passion I want to push you towards it. I guess I've matured since my high school years (and everyone rejoiced haha!) because back then and even up until recently I've looked at people's marriages and thought that submission to your husband was not a fun thing because it made you give up your own dreams to follow your husband's. However, I have come to the conclusion that once you find that someone you want to spend forever with then it is so much more fun to see them light up with joy when they are doing something that they love. And in a marriage both individuals will push each other and inspire one another to pursue their dreams just so that they can see the other one light up with a radiance that comes from within. And that is so much more beautiful when the heart is alive than any exterior beauty that fades with time! So my prayer for you today is that you are finding something that makes you really light up from the inside out and are pursuing that, not just the temporary pleasures that are like a candle that can be quickly extinguished! I cannot wait to join you on your journey!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
Monday, January 26, 2015
Letter 5: Are you out there?
Dear Future Husband,
I'm ashamed to admit this, but you will find out eventually that I have gone on a few dating websites. While these dating websites have come with a great deal of boosting to my ego due to various compliments from the guys on there, they have also come with a great deal of disgust and discouragement. I hope you are too sensible to go on those sites and never have to deal with the constant degradation of the mind due to the fact that people are literally looking at you for your body like an outfit on a manikin trying to decide if you would be a good fit for a one night stand. Purity is not something to be treasured and it is something to be ridiculed and mocked on those sites. I have saved myself for you and it is the most precious gift I have to give you besides my heart and while I cannot say I haven't soiled it some due to my sinful nature I have tried my best to keep it for you, the one I hope to spend forever with. Why don't people (men and women) care about what is on the inside anymore? The people on those sites (I cannot say all because that would be unfair of me to say that because there are some really decent ones on there) aren't looking for a forever or care about what my personality is or what makes me laugh or what makes me cry. Times like these make me wish that I was ugly on the outside so I wouldn't be looked at for the beauty that is on the outside but for the beauty that is on the inside, which time won't diminish. And even if they do happen to care about the inside and who you are, they don't care about God. That is the one non-negotiable thing that you must have: a strong and alive relationship with God. Sure, I have fantasies about you being super good looking with gorgeous eyes and a smile that makes me melt into a puddle, but honestly I'd trade all of those in for a guy with a relationship with God. Those are few and far between and I am praying every day for your walk with God whether it is just beginning or a constant journey or maybe you haven't met God yet and if that is the case then I pray for the day that your eyes are opened to His Beauty and Love and Grace! Future Husband, my gift to you today is that I promise to never get on another dating website again because I am determined to keep myself pure for you! I also am praying for myself that I will be constantly reminded in my loneliness to turn to the only One who can satisfy my needs fully and completely!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
I'm ashamed to admit this, but you will find out eventually that I have gone on a few dating websites. While these dating websites have come with a great deal of boosting to my ego due to various compliments from the guys on there, they have also come with a great deal of disgust and discouragement. I hope you are too sensible to go on those sites and never have to deal with the constant degradation of the mind due to the fact that people are literally looking at you for your body like an outfit on a manikin trying to decide if you would be a good fit for a one night stand. Purity is not something to be treasured and it is something to be ridiculed and mocked on those sites. I have saved myself for you and it is the most precious gift I have to give you besides my heart and while I cannot say I haven't soiled it some due to my sinful nature I have tried my best to keep it for you, the one I hope to spend forever with. Why don't people (men and women) care about what is on the inside anymore? The people on those sites (I cannot say all because that would be unfair of me to say that because there are some really decent ones on there) aren't looking for a forever or care about what my personality is or what makes me laugh or what makes me cry. Times like these make me wish that I was ugly on the outside so I wouldn't be looked at for the beauty that is on the outside but for the beauty that is on the inside, which time won't diminish. And even if they do happen to care about the inside and who you are, they don't care about God. That is the one non-negotiable thing that you must have: a strong and alive relationship with God. Sure, I have fantasies about you being super good looking with gorgeous eyes and a smile that makes me melt into a puddle, but honestly I'd trade all of those in for a guy with a relationship with God. Those are few and far between and I am praying every day for your walk with God whether it is just beginning or a constant journey or maybe you haven't met God yet and if that is the case then I pray for the day that your eyes are opened to His Beauty and Love and Grace! Future Husband, my gift to you today is that I promise to never get on another dating website again because I am determined to keep myself pure for you! I also am praying for myself that I will be constantly reminded in my loneliness to turn to the only One who can satisfy my needs fully and completely!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
Saturday, January 24, 2015
Letter #4: Adoption
Dear Future Husband,
I know we haven't even met yet and I'm thinking about the way I want our family to be, but I thought I'd take this time to share with you some of my dreams for our future family. I want to adopt children from all over the world and have a multicultural beautiful family! I first thought about doing this back when I was in college when God placed the love of internationals into my heart and I haven't really thought much of it until I saw this video the other day and I really want my family to be like this where the color of your skin or what you look like or the place you were born has no affect on how much you are loved! I have no idea how to raise a child, let alone a child that was neglected by their birth parents, and I have no delusion that this will be a perfect family, that we won't undergo bumps in the road along the way, but the family that I'm imagining will be such a reflection on God's abundant love and grace! Praying for your journey today wherever that might take you!
Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife
Thursday, January 22, 2015
Letter #3: Chick Flicks and High Expectations
Dear Future Husband,
It is during times like these I wish I had your strong arms around me just holding me (because obviously you will have strong arms and be a great giver of hugs!). As I am approaching my birthday, I wonder how many more years will go by until we meet. I have to wonder will it be ever? I have now banned myself from watching chick flicks or anything with any sort of love story because that just makes the longing for a husband worse. (Plus those guys in the stories just fill my head with ridiculous notions and it isn't fair to the male population to be holding them to that impossible standard because they are human too!) However, I'm imagining that our love story will be even better than any fictional story or anything I could ever imagine! So I will continue to wait for you in hopes that some day all this waiting will have paid off!
Forever and always faithfully yours, Your Future Wife
It is during times like these I wish I had your strong arms around me just holding me (because obviously you will have strong arms and be a great giver of hugs!). As I am approaching my birthday, I wonder how many more years will go by until we meet. I have to wonder will it be ever? I have now banned myself from watching chick flicks or anything with any sort of love story because that just makes the longing for a husband worse. (Plus those guys in the stories just fill my head with ridiculous notions and it isn't fair to the male population to be holding them to that impossible standard because they are human too!) However, I'm imagining that our love story will be even better than any fictional story or anything I could ever imagine! So I will continue to wait for you in hopes that some day all this waiting will have paid off!
Forever and always faithfully yours, Your Future Wife
Letter #2: Waiting
Dear Future Husband,
I am still waiting for you. It's not been an easy journey to get to where I am today and I'm sure yours hasn't been either. It's been so hard not to give in to depression when all around me I see people getting engaged, married, or having babies. And even harder when all of the people around me are constantly asking me why I don't have a boyfriend. Most of the time I'm content with where I am in life until I get asked this question and then I just want to slug the person who asked it because why do I need a guy in my life to be happy? And why do they make it seem like I am lacking in some way because I don't have one? I know that whenever I find you we will be happy together and all my unanswered questions about why will be answered. Future husband, sometimes I fear that all the good, gentlemenly, loving, Christ-like guys are taken. The only hope that I keep clinging to is that someday you will appear and the long wait will have been so incredibly worth it. I've got a lot of guy friends who are constantly teaching me what it means to have a healthy relationship with a guy so that when the time comes I will be able to translate that to our relationship and I can treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. I'm praying for you, that you stay strong and grow even stronger in the Lord and in wisdom and in knowledge!
Love, your Future Wife
I am still waiting for you. It's not been an easy journey to get to where I am today and I'm sure yours hasn't been either. It's been so hard not to give in to depression when all around me I see people getting engaged, married, or having babies. And even harder when all of the people around me are constantly asking me why I don't have a boyfriend. Most of the time I'm content with where I am in life until I get asked this question and then I just want to slug the person who asked it because why do I need a guy in my life to be happy? And why do they make it seem like I am lacking in some way because I don't have one? I know that whenever I find you we will be happy together and all my unanswered questions about why will be answered. Future husband, sometimes I fear that all the good, gentlemenly, loving, Christ-like guys are taken. The only hope that I keep clinging to is that someday you will appear and the long wait will have been so incredibly worth it. I've got a lot of guy friends who are constantly teaching me what it means to have a healthy relationship with a guy so that when the time comes I will be able to translate that to our relationship and I can treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. I'm praying for you, that you stay strong and grow even stronger in the Lord and in wisdom and in knowledge!
Love, your Future Wife
Letter 1: The Letter that Started them All!
Dear Future Husband,
You've been on my mind a lot lately. I wish I knew who you were or where to look for you or even when you were coming. However, God has decided that it would be best if we waited a bit until we knew we were meant for each other so until that time I have decided to pray for you on a daily basis. *Sigh* I wish you would hurry up and gallantly appear in my life because I get a tad jealous of the other couples, but some day all this waiting will pay off and I won't have to wait any longer then everyone will be jealous of us hotties! ;)
Love your Future Wife
You've been on my mind a lot lately. I wish I knew who you were or where to look for you or even when you were coming. However, God has decided that it would be best if we waited a bit until we knew we were meant for each other so until that time I have decided to pray for you on a daily basis. *Sigh* I wish you would hurry up and gallantly appear in my life because I get a tad jealous of the other couples, but some day all this waiting will pay off and I won't have to wait any longer then everyone will be jealous of us hotties! ;)
Love your Future Wife
How it all began...
So this one time on Facebook...
I decided to write a letter to my future husband...
And I've never had so many comments on anything I've ever posted before...
I guess there are many people out there who felt/feel the same way that I did/do...
So I decided to write another one...
And another one...
Until one day I thought to myself I should turn this into a blog...
So I did :)
I'm hoping to continue writing notes to him throughout the year unless I find him...
My future husband!
I decided to write a letter to my future husband...
And I've never had so many comments on anything I've ever posted before...
I guess there are many people out there who felt/feel the same way that I did/do...
So I decided to write another one...
And another one...
Until one day I thought to myself I should turn this into a blog...
So I did :)
I'm hoping to continue writing notes to him throughout the year unless I find him...
My future husband!
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