Letter #6: The Longest Time

Dear Future Husband,

A fun fact about me is that while my mom was giving birth to me, the radio was on and "The Longest Time" by Billy Joel was playing.  It's such a nostalgic song, even if I didn't happen to come into the world with that music playing, and at the same time it is such a hopeful song for the future.  And I love the lyrics, especially the part when she inspires him to write music and do what he loves.  Hopefully someday when I meet you I will be that same inspiration to you that I will be able to give life to your dreams and not just pursue my own.  I want to inspire you to dream big and whatever it is that is your passion I want to push you towards it.  I guess I've matured since my high school years (and everyone rejoiced haha!) because back then and even up until recently I've looked at people's marriages and thought that submission to your husband was not a fun thing because it made you give up your own dreams to follow your husband's.  However, I have come to the conclusion that once you find that someone you want to spend forever with then it is so much more fun to see them light up with joy when they are doing something that they love.  And in a marriage both individuals will push each other and inspire one another to pursue their dreams just so that they can see the other one light up with a radiance that comes from within.  And that is so much more beautiful when the heart is alive than any exterior beauty that fades with time!  So my prayer for you today is that you are finding something that makes you really light up from the inside out and are pursuing that, not just the temporary pleasures that are like a candle that can be quickly extinguished!  I cannot wait to join you on your journey!

Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife

Letter 5: Are you out there?

Dear Future Husband,

I'm ashamed to admit this, but you will find out eventually that I have gone on a few dating websites.  While these dating websites have come with a great deal of boosting to my ego due to various compliments from the guys on there, they have also come with a great deal of disgust and discouragement.  I hope you are too sensible to go on those sites and never have to deal with the constant degradation of the mind due to the fact that people are literally looking at you for your body like an outfit on a manikin trying to decide if you would be a good fit for a one night stand.  Purity is not something to be treasured and it is something to be ridiculed and mocked on those sites.  I have saved myself for you and it is the most precious gift I have to give you besides my heart and while I cannot say I haven't soiled it some due to my sinful nature I have tried my best to keep it for you, the one I hope to spend forever with.  Why don't people (men and women) care about what is on the inside anymore?  The people on those sites (I cannot say all because that would be unfair of me to say that because there are some really decent ones on there) aren't looking for a forever or care about what my personality is or what makes me laugh or what makes me cry.  Times like these make me wish that I was ugly on the outside so I wouldn't be looked at for the beauty that is on the outside but for the beauty that is on the inside, which time won't diminish.  And even if they do happen to care about the inside and who you are, they don't care about God.  That is the one non-negotiable thing that you must have: a strong and alive relationship with God.  Sure, I have fantasies about you being super good looking with gorgeous eyes and a smile that makes me melt into a puddle, but honestly I'd trade all of those in for a guy with a relationship with God.  Those are few and far between and I am praying every day for your walk with God whether it is just beginning or a constant journey or maybe you haven't met God yet and if that is the case then I pray for the day that your eyes are opened to His Beauty and Love and Grace!  Future Husband, my gift to you today is that I promise to never get on another dating website again because I am determined to keep myself pure for you!  I also am praying for myself that I will be constantly reminded in my loneliness to turn to the only One who can satisfy my needs fully and completely!

Forever and always faithfully yours,
Your Future Wife

Letter #4: Adoption

Dear Future Husband,

I know we haven't even met yet and I'm thinking about the way I want our family to be, but I thought I'd take this time to share with you some of my dreams for our future family.  I want to adopt children from all over the world and have a multicultural beautiful family!  I first thought about doing this back when I was in college when God placed the love of internationals into my heart and I haven't really thought much of it until I saw this video the other day and I really want my family to be like this where the color of your skin or what you look like or the place you were born has no affect on how much you are loved!  I have no idea how to raise a child, let alone a child that was neglected by their birth parents, and I have no delusion that this will be a perfect family, that we won't undergo bumps in the road along the way, but the family that I'm imagining will be such a reflection on God's abundant love and grace!  Praying for your journey today wherever that might take you!

Forever and always faithfully yours,

Your Future Wife

Letter #3: Chick Flicks and High Expectations

Dear Future Husband,

It is during times like these I wish I had your strong arms around me just holding me (because obviously you will have strong arms and be a great giver of hugs!). As I am approaching my birthday, I wonder how many more years will go by until we meet. I have to wonder will it be ever? I have now banned myself from watching chick flicks or anything with any sort of love story because that just makes the longing for a husband worse. (Plus those guys in the stories just fill my head with ridiculous notions and it isn't fair to the male population to be holding them to that impossible standard because they are human too!) However, I'm imagining that our love story will be even better than any fictional story or anything I could ever imagine! So I will continue to wait for you in hopes that some day all this waiting will have paid off! 

Forever and always faithfully yours, Your Future Wife

Letter #2: Waiting

Dear Future Husband,

I am still waiting for you.  It's not been an easy journey to get to where I am today and I'm sure yours hasn't been either.  It's been so hard not to give in to depression when all around me I see people getting engaged, married, or having babies.  And even harder when all of the people around me are constantly asking me why I don't have a boyfriend.  Most of the time I'm content with where I am in life until I get asked this question and then I just want to slug the person who asked it because why do I need a guy in my life to be happy?  And why do they make it seem like I am lacking in some way because I don't have one?  I know that whenever I find you we will be happy together and all my unanswered questions about why will be answered.  Future husband, sometimes I fear that all the good, gentlemenly, loving, Christ-like guys are taken.  The only hope that I keep clinging to is that someday you will appear and the long wait will have been so incredibly worth it.  I've got a lot of guy friends who are constantly teaching me what it means to have a healthy relationship with a guy so that when the time comes I will be able to translate that to our relationship and I can treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.  I'm praying for you, that you stay strong and grow even stronger in the Lord and in wisdom and in knowledge!

Love, your Future Wife

Letter 1: The Letter that Started them All!

Dear Future Husband,

You've been on my mind a lot lately.  I wish I knew who you were or where to look for you or even when you were coming.  However, God has decided that it would be best if we waited a bit until we knew we were meant for each other so until that time I have decided to pray for you on a daily basis. *Sigh* I wish you would hurry up and gallantly appear in my life because I get a tad jealous of the other couples, but some day all this waiting will pay off and I won't have to wait any longer then everyone will be jealous of us hotties! ;)

Love your Future Wife

How it all began...

So this one time on Facebook...

I decided to write a letter to my future husband...

And I've never had so many comments on anything I've ever posted before...

I guess there are many people out there who felt/feel the same way that I did/do...

So I decided to write another one...

And another one...

Until one day I thought to myself I should turn this into a blog...

So I did :)

I'm hoping to continue writing notes to him throughout the year unless I find him...

My future husband!